But what happens when you undertake a project where its success is dependent on the actions of others? The only way to maintain your serenity in this type of situation … because you cannot have faith in others, it’s an often nasty, undependable world out there … is to undertake the project with no attachment. Which is saying to yourself, if it happens great, if it doesn’t happen that’s ok too. Because you know again that you have everything you need inside yourself to be at peace and happy, and so you know you will be ok, safe, regardless.
But what if this project is important to your financial wellbeing. Not becoming rich and famous, but just standing on your own two feet? Your ego-mind will place huge stress on you; you will not be able to view anything regarding the progress of this project with equanimity. It won’t let you say, if it happens great, if it doesn’t that’s ok too. You will have no peace.
You say though that the facts are such that this isn’t your ego saying what it wants. This is real. You need this project to happen to be financially safe.
But this is your ego-mind talking. Because your heart knows that even if this doesn’t happen, one way or the other, you will be ok. You may not be able to do or live in the way that you/your mind wants you to be able to live, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be ok, safe, happy. What it does mean is that you have to practice The Heart’s Embrace (see my post of that title). Only then will you not suffer and instead experience peace and happiness.
When you approach your project with equanimity, without attachment, you will be able to proceed, to experience rejection, and not have it turn your gut inside out. You will be free of feelings of anger and negativity towards those you are dealing with. This change your reaction will seem like a miracle, but it isn’t, you’ve just turned your will and your life over to your true Buddha nature and embraced all aspects of your life.