In this situation, we ask, “Why?” and we question the Buddha/god/the universe within us and our faith. These are actions guaranteed to escalate our state of upset. And we will suffer.
However, here as always, we have a choice, if only we can access it. The choice is to either let our ego-mind control our reactions to the situation and suffer or put our life in the hands of the Buddha/god/the universe within us and regain our sense of peace and happiness.
But you do have to be able to access it. That means that ideally when something happens, you respond that things are the way they are because it’s just the way it is; it’s meant to be and it’s all ok (see my post, “It’s Just the Way It Is and It’s All OK.”) so that you never go where your ego-mind would take you. If, however, when something happens you don’t focus in that way and your ego-mind takes control, you must stop when you feel yourself getting upset—literally STOP—and then redirect your focus to the fact that things are the way they
are ….
As noted in the post referred to, when you do this you do not say it with resignation, which is not a positive feeling; you say it with faith and are completely released of any feeling of burden at the moment; the moment doesn’t offend you. That’s because you are not trying to change the situation—at that moment—which is an expression of humility.
A complimentary practice to use in connection with this is The Heart’s Embrace. (See the post of that name.) Again, the idea is to be in a space where nothing offends you and so all internal and external struggle ceases.
NOTE: It takes a lot of practice and meditation and prayer to be able to do this. The ego-mind has deep roots in you and is very aggressive; it thinks it knows what’s best for you. Don’t get frustrated if your initial efforts—this can extend for quite some time—fail to break the grip of your ego-mind.