I just realized this morning when meditating that I got this wrong. My wounded inner child is my mind, not just its avatar. And that makes a profound difference in how I interact with my mind.
I have always viewed the mind as being my adversary, my enemy, in my intent to walk the path. For the mind constantly brings on doubt and fear, its perceived truth, to pull me from the path.
Recently I wrote a post that said that instead of just saying, "no," to my mind when it asserts itself, recognizing that it and my inner child are one and so an antagonistic stance is not appropriate, I should embrace them, saying that this is not the way we respond to whatever the situation is and provide them guidance from my heart.
That was a positive change in how I had always dealt with my mind. But I still didn't connect the dots. If my wounded inner child is my mind, then it cannot be my enemy. It may be my adversary in walking the path, but it is only so because my wounded inner child is consumed by fear and self-doubt. There is no evil intent.
I did once write that just as the devil is often referred to as a fallen angel, so too our mind is our internal fallen Buddha self (see my post, "The Devil Is Alive and Well"). I then spoke about differencing between those who were under the influence of the devil and those who had become the devil incarnate, evil.
This was wrong thinking. Our wounded inner child is not under the influence of the devil. It may be thought of as our fallen Buddha self, but it is just disturbed, troubled; it is not evil and thus not the devil.
Only when one has given up on the light and assumed darkness as ones identity does one become the devil, and that is the devil incarnate. When I related the story of having dinner with my friend and realizing that I had been in the presence of the devil, that was because my friend had succumbed to darkness, he was not able to see light, and so the devil was indeed inside him.
Thus when my mind, my wounded inner child, asserts itself, beyond saying, "no," I truly need to respond with compassion towards my inner child and provide it guidance from my heart.