But if this is our focus in life, then we are bound to endless suffering. Because things are seldom the way we wish them to be. And so we are frustrated, anxious, depressed, fearful, etc. Even people who are "successful" suffer in this way.
If we are focused on the here and now, on "carnal" matters, then it's almost impossible to say with any real belief that things are the way they are because it's just the way it is; everything will be ok, spiritually; it is meant to be; and have faith.
To be in that space where there is no suffering, where there is no frustration, requires that one's focus is on eternity, on your soul. We must free our soul from all the toxicity that the ego-mind has surrounded it with. That is the essence of spirituality: to choose to be one with your true Buddha nature/divinity/child of the universe, to say "your will, not my mind's," be humble, and know that things are the way they are because it's just the way it is, it is meant to be; you will be spiritually safe – there is no other kind of real safety.
This flies against all our conditioning, every bone in our body. But if one seeks peace, it is the only way.
And there's no secret way to achieve this state. You just have to do it; you have to make that life choice. You will still have to interact with the world, this is not about being holed up in some monastery, but you will interact and observe on your Buddha-mind's terms. not your ego-mind's.
Then why have I written books and blog about this process? Because the ego-mind has great power over us, and so "just doing it" is a challenge, but that must be your intent. And so we must make use of the tools at our disposal to free ourselves from the control of our ego-mind and be one with the Buddha nature/divinity/child of the universe within us.